4 Ways You Can Help Someone Battling Addiction

It goes without saying that anyone dealing with an addiction is having a very hard time. In addition, however, the loved ones in that person’s life are also struggling. They want to help but often, they just don’t know where to start. They might even be too nervous to bring up the topic. This all-too-common trend must be challenged.

Simply put, your support can go a long, long way in helping someone else overcome addiction. Yes, both parties may feel self-conscious. But, the results will be well worth the awkwardness. With all this in mind, let’s explore some proven ways you can help someone battling addiction.

First, the Basics…

It all starts with trust. Put in the time and sincere effort needed to make sure your genuine intentions are clear to all involved.
Never give ultimatums. It is not helpful (and not your place) to set the agenda or judge their progress. Anything that can be perceived as a threat or unfair criticism will shatter the above-mentioned trust.
Practice radical honesty. If their addiction is impacting your life, too, let them know. Do so with compassion but also with honesty.
Be patient. Recovery is not a straight road. It winds and takes detours — with plenty of bumps on the way. If you truly wish to help, do so for the long haul.

4 Ways You Can Help Someone Battling Addiction

1. Self-Education

Knowledge is power. But keep in mind that every situation will have its own unique characteristics. So, yes, do your homework. Learn all you can about addiction and how to help. Become familiar with common treatment options. Also, look into all the ways an addict may try to manipulate you.

2. Set Boundaries

No one can help 24/7. It is unhealthy and inadvisable to try. Therefore, it is essential that you establish and enforce boundaries with the person you are helping. At first, your boundaries may be viewed as “being mean.” Expect to have those boundaries tested. Stay strong and over time, you’ll see your needs being met, too.

3. Do Not Enable

Speaking boundaries, not enabling is a big one. It may seem like the nicest, most natural thing in the world to buy groceries or give them loans. In reality, this kind of behavior almost always prolongs the addiction. You’ll need to coordinate with all of those who are close to the addict. If even one person is covering for them or giving them money, it will counteract all the good work you are doing. Pro tip: Examine your choices carefully to make certain that you are not unconsciously enabling the person in need.

4. Practice Self-Care

You cannot help your loved one if you’re not helping yourself. Your exhaustion and lack of personal time can lead you to feel some resentment. Your weakness and fatigue can be exploited by someone in the throes of addiction. Keep in mind:

Sleep is your friend. Maintain a regular bedtime and wake-up routine.
Eat healthy meals and avoid comfort foods (and drinks).
Stay physically active. Don’t skip the gym.
Create a repertoire of relaxation and stress management techniques.
Keep a social life outside the person you are helping. Talk about subjects other than addiction.

You will need the best version of yourself to handle this crucial and onerous task. Be kind to yourself and set the boundaries you need to make sure you’re not neglecting your own needs. Self-care is not selfish, it’s logical.

You Are Not Alone

Help, support, and counseling are all available for you, too. If you are helping someone battle addiction, let’s connect for a free and confidential consultation. Therapy can definitely buttress your admirable efforts. I invite you to partner with me for support. Reach out today for a free 15-minute consultation.

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